Getting Back Together With Your Ex

I’m betting that if your friends see you reading this, you’re going to get a major beating. Wasn’t it you who said that you’re never going back to that person again? Didn’t you say something like “I’m not dumb enough to go back to that toxic relationship”? Well, look what we have here now. I guess the relationship wasn’t that toxic after all, eh?

But you know, I do get what you’re feeling. I’m sure that backing down now would make you look like the stupidest person in the world but it’s not like you can help it, right?

No matter how much you tell yourself that it’s over, no matter how much you try to convince yourself that you’re done with your ex, your heart would still not listen to you because it’s not ready to.

The only way you’re going to feel better is if you start being more honest with yourself. You didn’t really want to break up. Things just probably got difficult and the easiest way out were to distance yourself, am I right? This article here probably speaks a lot about your situation.

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Still, taking back all the trash you said about your boyfriend to your friends is not an easy thing to do. It’s like you’re trying to swallow what you’ve already spit out. But hey, the heart wants what the heart wants. You really can’t do much about it.

So, if you really want to amend your severed connection, I’m pretty sure that your real friends will understand. After all, maybe your ex deserves the chance, after all.

But before you jump the gun and call your ex to get back together right away. Here’s something I think you should read first.

Why Do You Want To Get Back To Your Ex?

Before you make any drastic decisions, it would help if you try to understand WHY exactly you would want to rekindle your past relationship. Regrets are normal; everyone experiences it post-breakup.

For example, if you find yourself longing for a partner but can’t seem to find a good one, going back to your failed relationship is never the solution. You may want to check yourself for dependency issues.

Are you going back because you really, really love him and you think he deserves a second chance? Was there never really a reason to separate and your womanly mood swings just got the best of you?

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Or, are you going back just because you can’t get by on your own and you think that you really need someone by your side to get through life?

If a relationship revolves around dependence, it becomes toxic. It’s suffocating, overwhelming, confining, and all in all ugly. It inhibits your growth as individuals. In order for a relationship to succeed and to last for that matter, you should be comfortable enough to live by yourself and being together simply makes you both happier.

If a love is something you absolutely can’t live without, then you better re-evaluate where your real intentions lie. A toxic relationship can never heal you and you’re lucky enough to have gotten out of it in the first place. Don’t succumb to your own vulnerabilities and go back to what was destroying you.

But if this is not the case and you think true love will always prevail, then why not go back after all?

How To Get Back With Your Ex

Forcing your relationship again is never a good idea. You can’t selfishly try to take the person for your own again. First things first, you have to find out whether he’s also willing to give your love a second chance.

If you force things, you’ll only end up tired, restless, and frustrated. It would feel as if you’re forcing a pen with no ink to write again.

If you believe that there’s still a chance and the other person is more than willing to give it a shot too, then you have to approach things proactively. Time heals but when you work on it together, you will both heal faster.

Lay your bad cards down the table and ask him to do the same; reassess your relationship and find out what’s been causing you clash in the first place. Eliminate that. Then, work on reaching a compromise. Exercise respect. After all, love isn’t the only foundation of a relationship. There’s also respect, hard work, and commitment.

Don’t do the same mistakes twice.